If you have been wondering if the levels of communication and support between you and your partner are fluctuating unevenly and unhealthily, you could be facing concerns about the relationship in general, whether you are married, dating, or engaged.
Strong relationships and stable marriages require certain elements to ensure that they are running smoothly, including commitment, respect, and communication.
The following seven phrases are things that could potentially show a problem in the relationship. If you find your partner repeating these phrases, speak honestly and sincerely with them and tell them your feelings and thoughts. Your partner should be willing to offer you respect and listen to your opinions with love and kindness.
1. “I am bored.”
When you get into a routine with your significant other, it can turn into a cycle of normalcy. Sometimes, it can be a good idea to shake things up by doing something different. This can act as a refreshing change of pace in your day. Be honest with yourself and decide if you are content with the situation you are currently in. Also, if your partner comfortable with your routine?
Changing the pace and activities that you usually do can help strengthen your relationship and bring you closer to your partner.
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2. “You never understand me or the things I say.”
People are fundamentally different. Just because you share similar likes and dislikes doesn’t mean that you are going to think the same thoughts as your partner all of the time. This can lead to miscommunication and complications.
If your partner is indicating that they feel like you don’t take the time to understand them, try to offer them support and respect and take into account the things they are telling you. Look at things from their perspective. Understanding each other’s point of view is crucial to forming a strong and lasting relationship.
3. “You’ll never change.”
Any form of change can be hard to achieve. However, if your partner feels like you are not able to make changes in your behavior and actions, try opening up a conversation with them and explaining why you do the things that you do. If they do not agree with certain actions of yours, try showing them the motives behind your actions and words. When you help your partner understand your point of view, they are more likely to accept the things that you’re not comfortable changing. You should work with your partner to find compromises for problems that leave both of you
When you help your partner understand your point of view, they are more likely to accept the things that you’re not comfortable changing. You should work with your partner to find compromises for problems that leave both of you feel happy with the resolution.
4. “Why are you not the same as So-And-So?”
Comparing your partner to others will bring up several problems in your relationship and vice versa. If your significant other is consistently wondering why you aren’t like their friends or family members, they are focusing on comparing you to others instead of noticing your worth just the way you are. Look at all of the facts and make a decision based on what will leave you with the best personal, physical, and emotional health.
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5. “You aren’t the same person that I fell in love with.”
Over time, changes can occur in regards to intelligence, emotions, thoughts, and appearance. These changes can affect your relationship.
If you find your partner constantly saying that you aren’t the same person that first fell in love with, they are neglecting to realize that it is likely that they too are different than when you fell in love with them. No one remains the same, and it is important to recognize changes and growth in your partner. If problems arise, work through them together and focus on your love and growth. Successful relationships are based on the idea of aging together and growing as human beings.
6. “Whatever you decide,” or “Whatever you want.”
If your partner is using phrases similar to the one’s states above, it indicates that they are showing disinterest in the things you desire and want. This is not due to a submissive attitude towards the relationship or because they only want what you want. Instead, this lack of interest represents that your partner may not have a passionate attitude towards your romantic relationship.
Successful relationships are not built in a day, and they are not always easy or simple. They require communication, respect, and trust, along with a myriad of other things. It is crucial to talk openly with your partner about problems and issues you face. Work together to find solutions that make you both happy, individually and together.
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