Most people are looking for love, so why is it so hard to find? Humans are capable of incredible things, but falling in love with anyone and making them feel the same way isn’t one of them.
Love might be glorious, but along the way to eternal happiness most of us have seen it’s nasty side and experienced our fair share of pain. Ironically, it can be those who wait for the longest for love and refuse to settle for just anyone that become some of the strongest people you will ever meet.
Unlike many others, and you know who they are, settling has never been an option for them. The idea of just giving up and making a go of it with the “right now” person doesn’t cross their minds. If they’re going to have love, they’re going to have the love that means something, that fulfills them and that will last a lifetime.
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This might seem like a fuzzy, romantic notion, but put it into the cold light of reality and it’s a brave and courageous stand to take. They risk takers, who refuse to let anything other than love guide them when it comes to their romantic life.
After all, there are no guarantees that they will meet someone and they can end up holding out for the person that ultimately never turn up. It takes an active mind to recognize this and still opt to wait rather than take a chance with someone they don’t have feelings for.
They won’t let the pressures of society or dreams of love cloud their judgment. They won’t give into those feelings of doubt that tell them to give it another shot and instead are confident in the knowledge that when it happens, they’ll know.
Loneliness isn’t a problem for them; they would rather be alone than in a false relationship and many times being with the wrong person can make you feel lonelier than when you are single.
Being only long-term can become a psychological battle as they navigate life in a world where a couple is preferred. There’s pressure from friends, family, and society in general to “find the one” and being able to resist and block out this constant stream takes a considerably healthy mind.
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Ignoring the noise coming from others and staying true to yourself isn’t easy, so it’s inevitable that those who stay single the longest develop a deep sense of who they are and faith in themselves. Faith that when it’s wrong, they can be honest about it and have the courage to walk away when it’s not right.
Fiercely independent, they know themselves better than most, and their first commitment is always to their character and beliefs. Unwilling to compromise just to land a partner – when they have mastered this, they can be unstoppable.
More importantly, they rely on only themselves for emotional and psychological support meaning that they can handle most situations and don’t seek out a partner because they need someone – they do it because they want to.
In many ways waiting for love forces you to have a relationship with yourself. When you get to know who you are when you learn to be your best-friend and the importance of always being honest with yourself.
