That time when you saw nothing but a future together, imagined every aspect of your life together and believed that there is no power in the world that can break it for you – but then it did.
This painful experience of being hurt and shattered expectations, broke you into pieces you never thought you could put back together.
Maybe it is true – In order to be whole again, you need to be broken first.
You unconsciously admit to people who we know would teach us a lesson since somewhere in our minds, you really know that you have to learn them. You find yourself the most difficult to change by simply thinking it, you are the sort that would require a drastic situation in life to understand the need for change – you put yourself in that situation.
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It is also likely that you continue to tell yourself that it is not always a matter of learning from a mistake and you still wish to take back your lost love because the ending was too painful.
Although, no matter how much you tell or defend yourself or simply pretend, it will never change the reality.
The only reason that love was in your life was to break your heart.
This pain and suffering is what carves our way through to the love of our life that we find later.
One of the biggest mistakes we make in love is to persist in a relationship that we should have walked out of the moment we got into it. If not that, we must have gotten out of it long before we did and definitely not let it go all the way till it all went downhill.
However, this by no means suggest that, that love was meant to be forever – it was a time that made you realize what love really is.
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We have all been in such relationships and we have all tried to mend the wounds, trying to somehow ensure that the love doesn’t end the way it did – but you must understand, you have very little to do with it. What’s meant to be, is meant to be.
But why does that love end in a catastrophe?
It does because it wants to shake you to your core and make you realize every belief you have about love.
Post this disaster (as you call it), you are meant to question what went wrong and you really would think hard about what love really is. The healing will never take a day – it is simply a matter of accepting the truth. You have healed, the day you have accepted the truth.
The day you accept the truth, you will know that you have your true love waiting out there in the world.
And this time – it will be different. You would be loved for who you are, you will be pushed to do what you really love to do and you will then turn around to realize that this is what you always were looking for.
The mistakes we make today are the ones that leave us better later. Sure, it hurts right now but tomorrow you will find something better because you will then know better what you are looking for.
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You only get what you are looking for when you are ready. At the time of a broken hurt, don’t give up, embrace it.
The love you’d find forever will have no connection to all the old ones, it will feel different and that is exactly when you will know that you have achieved mending a broken hurt as a stronger person.
You will look within that love for the solitude and not chaos.
You will look for meaning and not what you think you want. You will have more comfort in being held, you will enjoy the conversations and you will pick being home with your beloved any day and that is the love when you will say yes.
It will make you realize how glad you are of making that mistake. You finally would know what matters to you and it will all follow like a river, calm and quiet.
