To The Man Who Left After Making Me Fall In Love Him

There’s so much I could say to you right now, but it doesn’t matter now, does it? Instead, I’ll just say one thing: Thank you.

Thank you for doing what I didn’t have the strength to do. Although I didn’t know it at the time, you leaving me was the best thing that could have happened to me. I fell so far in love with you that I had an excuse for everything you did, and there was no way I would have left you at that point. I believed you to be perfect and capable of no wrong, so even if I had seen the damage you were doing to me, I don’t think I could have left you with my strength.

Thank you for showing me the difference between selfishness and selflessness. I selflessly loved you through every moment of our two years together, giving up time spent with friends, spending money I didn’t have because you didn’t have anything either, and taking care of you when you were sick. You selfishly absorbed every bit of that love and affection that I gave you, and gave nothing back, which left me feeling empty and desperate for more.

Thank you for teaching me a valuable lesson to value myself. After all, the fact that I didn’t appreciate myself was the reason I was with you in the first place. For some reason, I thought that you would give me value, and even after chasing it for so long, I was left empty-handed. So if you hadn’t left me after I fell in love with you, I wouldn’t have realized how much I need to value myself or that I can’t look to others to give me my value. I’m valuable without anyone telling me so.

Thank you for giving me a list of red flags. Now as I look back and evaluate your actions throughout our relationship, everything seems so clear. I can see every red flag that I previously dismissed, even when it made my gut churn. And now I have a whole list of red flags that I can watch for in future relationships, so I don’t have to make this mistake again. Never again will I stay with someone who keeps secrets from me, accuses me of cheating regularly and with no proof, or who asks me for money for “rent.”

Thank you for hurting me so badly that I will never make this mistake again. You ripped my heart out and tore it to pieces, and I know that’s going to take time to heal. I’m going to have scars, too, but that pain is something I know I can’t survive a second time, so I won’t let myself get to that point. And those scars will be a constant reminder of my mistake of letting myself fall in love with you even though the people that love me the most told me to be careful.

As I said before, there are a lot of things I could say to you right now. I could be angry for how you hurt me, manipulated my emotions, and treated me like an object rather than a human being, but I don’t want to dwell on the negative. I want to move forward with my life and only pick up the good things that came out of our relationship while leaving all the bad in the past.

So, thank you, for making me fall in love with you and then leaving me.

– From the Woman Whose Heart You Most Recently Broke

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About the Author: Originally from Michigan, Melody now enjoys working as a freelance writer from her home in Nicaragua, which she shares with her amazing husband and their crazy cat that was raised on goat’s milk from the time her mother abandoned her at just ten days old. They’re excited to be expecting their first baby, who they thought was a girl, were told was a boy, and then was told was a girl. She also recently finished her first novel and is working on making a cat coloring book.