There are a lot of women who usually say that their present partners do not want to let them go even if they know that their partners do not want them anymore. They can become confused if they should continue to stay in the relationship or just go away.
Some women know that they are hurting so much, but they want to keep on believing that the men they are with still love them because they do not want to let go. There are times when a man is truly in love, but with a highly toxic relationship, this is not very likely.
The man does not want to let you go because you are convenient. You are the one available. You may be like a mother to your man. Whenever he needs some things like money, security and even sex, you are just there. You allow your man to get away with things that he is doing. This is not right. You always assume that just because he does not want to let you go, he still loves you.
He will never change.
He will only let you go when he sees someone whom he truly loves or when he has met someone who will possibly become his new victim.
Remember that if he truly loves you, he will not make you feel unloved. He would not want you to feel stressed about the things that he will let you go through. He would strive to give you happiness, security, and love. If he cannot provide these things for you, then you should not think twice anymore. He does not love you.
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When you are being disrespected all over and over again, you have to tell yourself that it is not loved anymore. He does not want to let you go because he needs you but not because he loves you. You will always know the answer deep inside. You will know if he is still worth the fight or not.
You already know that he does not want you, but you cannot bear to tear yourself away from the relationship. Here are a few things that you can do that will make going away from the relationship easier to carry:
1. Try to Understand That You Do Not Work Together Anymore
A relationship is a partnership between two people. You want to be connected to each other. You want to feel that you are committed to each other. If either of you breaks the bond between you two, then you are not working as a team anymore. This is when the relationship starts to fail.
2. Try to Slow Down
Even if you have already broken up, but he keeps on coming back, then it may not be because he has actually changed. You may become convinced in the beginning especially when he is on his best behavior but with most men, this will not last.
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3. Try Not to Think About What Happens in the Movies
In the movies, the bad boy suddenly comes to his senses and realizes that he cannot let the one that he loves to be taken away from him but this does not work in real life. Movies make us see the happily ever after but in real life, happily ever after can only work when two people work well together.
4. Look at What He Does and Not What He Says
It is easy to become fooled by the different things he tells you. He may say that he is going to find a job, he will sustain your needs and wants. He may say that he has changed, and he does not text random girls anymore but what do his actions say? Has he truly changed? Take a look at his work and not his words. You will be able to make decisions based on that.
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5. Stop Making Excuses for Him
His behavior is bad. You should not try to downplay it by saying that he can always improve or that he is just in a bad mood because of something that has happened. His bad behavior towards you should not be justified.
There are also a lot of men who do not grow up. They believe that everything should center around them even when it is evident that this should not be the case. By this time, you already know a lot of details about the guy’s past. How did he deal with his past issues? Did he make a lot of girls cry? His issues are not your fault.
6. Put Yourself First
If there is one thing that you should remember, it is to put yourself first. If the man wants to come back, remember how domineering he was in the relationship and how he made you feel. You do not deserve to be treated that way. Find it in your heart and mind to walk away and never look back. It will make all the difference.
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