If You Do NOT Want to Get Married; It Is Perfectly Alright

Don’t be afraid to say “no.” Honestly, when you break it down, marriage is a bizarre concept in the grand scheme of things, and if you aren’t into it, don’t feel bad.

For some reason, there is a stigma involving women wanting to stay single, or they want commitment but not marriage. It’s horrible to shame people into scenarios that make them uncomfortable, but sadly it happens a lot.

If you are an individual who doesn’t want to get married, sometimes it’s not just hard for women it is difficult for men too, and there are people in your family or friend groups pressuring you. My first course of action would be to sit them down and explain how you feel. I’m not saying it will work but knowing they know how you feel will give you resolve when you might have to stand your ground later. If they do understand where you are coming from then, your problems are over, but if they continue to pester you or not sympathize, then you can realize that they might not have your best interest at heart. Either way, it makes it easier to live how you want to.

Sometimes your instincts are correct. You may not know it now, but there may be an underlying reason why you are pushing marriage away. Maybe subconsciously you know your partner isn’t the right one, or that you really wouldn’t thrive in a constricting scenario. Either way, If you aren’t into something, there doesn’t need to be a reason why. Trust yourself; you know what you need to be happy.

Divorce is no longer such a taboo topic, and it went through a lot of drama to get to that point, though this means there is hope that staying out of marriage won’t be so taboo in the future. It’s time to let go, don’t waste your time trying to figure out why things are the way they are and why people have certain preconceived notions about breaking away from the mold.

It’s a lot better to do what you want and be happy than do something to please other people. I mean you are the one stuck with the decision in the end so make it one you want.

Don’t worry you are not weird. There are thousands of women and men who don’t want to tie the knot. This doesn’t mean, necessarily, that you don’t want to commit to one person. I know a lot of people that are in committed marriage level relationships that just don’t want to make it legally binding.

Think how much easier it would be if one day you woke up and either of you was done. We only have one life and for me, being stuck with something whether it’s a person or a legal decision that you don’t want anymore is miserable.

There are people out there who don’t take anything lower than a marriage seriously. It’s frustrating! If I say I have a boyfriend, it’s always assumed it’s very temporary.  That’s not necessarily true. It can be for those of us who like keeping relationships short and various. But that isn’t always the case. I think it’s best to approach each person as a unique individual, be understanding and take that person’s feelings into account. The more we are clumped together, the harder it is for us if we want to break out later.

This also goes for people who want to get married. There is no reason to disapprove of their choices just because it’s something you don’t want.

A good rule of thumb for life, in general, is letting go of others opinions. This is a good template that could help all other aspects of your life. Anyone judging or trying to pressure you into something is not the kind of person you need in your life or, at the very least, listen to.

Marriage is in no way something I want to disparage, but for those of us who don’t think it’s right for us, have the right not to partake, just as those who are into it have the right to marry.

Stay strong and don’t let the pressure get to you. You have the ability to stand up for what you want, don’t forget that.

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