Like most young girls, growing up, I had an image in my mind of who I would end up with. Over the years, that idea shifted, developed and, if I’m honest, it has completely changed from what I initially imagined.
A failed long-term relationship with someone who I thought I would end up with forever, caused me to reevaluate who I was. What I allowed to happen contributed to a dishonest, abusive and unhappy relationship?
I turned inward and did my best to move on, to grow and learn from the experience.
I made mental notes of what not to do again.
I didn’t want to fall into the same rabbit hole I did in past relationships, and through some trial and error, I finally was able to grasp my shortcomings. Through that process, I dealt a card I could have never imagined myself doing which eventually found me the one.
So if you’re a single lady on the prowl and looking for a fantastic man to be by your side, be on the lookout for these qualities.
Trust me; I’ve had some expert.
1. Find someone who lifts you up, even when you’re a brat
I know this might sound a little strange, but this is the ultimate test – in my tried and true opinion. If you can find a guy that handles your hormonal mood swings like melted butter on a warm stack of flapjacks, then you’ve found a keeper.
Even when I just can’t help it, and I’m acting like Veruca Salt when she doesn’t get the golden egg, my man supports me and shows me love. It always brings me out of my bad mood.
2. Be with someone who you can handle life’s challenges with you
The truth is, life can be sucky sometimes. Sh*t happens that we can’t control. In my case, I flipped my Jeep and then faced two Category 5 hurricanes within three months.
Instead of crumbling completely, my guy supported me emotionally and allowed me to break down when I needed to. He was always there and was by my side as we made our next life plan together.
3. Be with someone who makes you laugh
See point above.
Life can hand you lemons. Be with someone who can turn those lemons into the sweetest lemonade with you. If you can’t laugh together, then why even be together?
4. Find a partner who cares about your family like they are his own
Sounds self-explanatory, but it’s essential.
When your partner makes those who are important to you a priority, then you honestly see where your lie in their world. When they show up for your family events and make an effort to care for and love them, it indeed opens your heart to the immense love that is possible.
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5. Be with a guy who tells you you’re beautiful
Even when you don’t have your “face on,” your guy should appreciate your beauty and express it to you. You know you have someone who genuinely loves you for who you are, even when you have a messy bun and sleepy eyes from the night before.
6. Enjoy your life with a partner that supports your dreams
Even if your dreams are a little out there, find someone who wants to hear you out, and does their best to support your ideas and goals.
7. Be with someone you’re proud of showing off to your friends and family
This may sound cheesy, but it’s true. When you’re happy with the person you are with, they should get to know your friends and family just as much as you.
And when you’re proud of who you’re with, it makes it exciting and easy to introduce your partner to your loved ones. Instead of having to make excuses for someone who just doesn’t show up in your life, be with a man who you’re excited to show off.
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About the Author: Madalyn is a Florida-born girl who has spent the last four years working and basking in the Caribbean sun. Even though she grew up dancing professionally, she is often called a “bull in a china shop” for her clumsy ways. A true lover of the outdoors and new places, Madalyn is always up for an adventure. She has a vast taste for different types of music, often getting caught dancing wherever she is. Writing has always been a passion for Madalyn, and she’s made it her personal life mission to spread the love through words by detailing the eccentricities, from the unconventional to the mundane, of a 20-something just trying to figure out this life, one adventure at a time.
